Usually when we think of needs, we think of the basics of food, water, and shelter. Unfortunately for some of us, these basic needs are hard to come by lately. However, the one thing we have all learned during this pandemic is that we have additional needs that we might have taken for granted in the past. We have needs of connection with others, a sense of belonging, and purpose in our lives.
So it is important to think of the question, “What do YOU need?”
It is a very simple question that has a very in-depth meaning. Think of the state of your life right now and ask yourself this question. Don’t be afraid to go deep and figure out what it is that will help you to feel fulfilled.
When you achieve one dream, dream another. Getting what you want is only a problem if you have nowhere to go next. Dreaming is a lifetime occupation.Rudy Ruettiger
The following questions may help in figuring out what you need:
- What do you consider your strengths right now?
- What areas do you need to grow?
- Where do you find the most joy?
- What causes you the most pain?
- What gives you the best feeling of fulfillment?
Hopefully, your basic needs of water, food, and shelter are being met, and you do not need to answer the question in that manner. If not, perhaps your need is to get a different job in order to be able to afford a better home.
It could be that your need is of to have another person with which to share your life. Perhaps you need some help with your children.
There is also the possibility that you feel your need is of better or more possessions. Do you need a big screen TV, a new car, a new phone, or new clothes?
Do you need to change your daily health habits? Maybe you need to increase the amount you exercise, pray more, begin meditating, or focus on healthier eating.
The first step to getting what you want is to have the courage to get rid of what you don’t.Zig Ziglar
However you answer this question is important for you to evaluate how you are choosing to live your life. How are you are spending your time and money? Do your expenditures match up with what you consider to be the most important? How much time and energy are you putting into making your needs a reality? How much time and energy are you wasting pursuing things you don’t actually need and don’t really want?
If your most basic needs have already been met in your life, and what you need right now centers on striving for self-actualization, you need to direct your attention toward that. Don’t discount the importance of these needs. Your happiness and self-image are vital for your mental health. Give yourself the freedom to create the space for your life to be the most fulfilling.