Helping Others Helps Ourselves

You may know the expression, “It is better to give than receive,” but do you know that the benefits of this truism have been proven by research?  People who are kind and compassionate recognize the benefits to their lives. Kindness can also help reduce stress and improve our emotional wellbeing. Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at leastContinue reading “Helping Others Helps Ourselves”

Develop From The Negatives

Recently I read some advice, “Life is like photography, develop from the negatives.”  My first thought was that many young people may not even understand this play on words because photography is now digital.  This means we no longer use film which develops into the negatives used to print photographs. However, I did find itContinue reading “Develop From The Negatives”

Unresolved Conflicts

Conflict can happen when friends, co-workers, or family members have different views or beliefs that are incompatible with our own. Sometimes conflict can occur when people misunderstand each other and jump to the wrong conclusion. Issues of conflict that are not resolved peacefully can lead to arguments and resentment so it is important to faceContinue reading “Unresolved Conflicts”

Intimacy

We have all heard of intimacy and we may even know how important it is in relationships. But, what is it and how do we create and maintain it? Intimacy is defined as a close familiarity or friendship; closeness. While it may seem this applies to romantic relationships, intimacy is important in non-romantic relationships asContinue reading “Intimacy”

Dealing With Sorrow and Mourning

As we watch the number of Covid-19 deaths increase daily, unfortunately many of us are dealing with the grief that comes along with losing a loved one.  We are also all managing the grief that is associated with not being with our family and friends as we would like.   This grief is especially difficultContinue reading “Dealing With Sorrow and Mourning”

The Blame Game

It sometimes seems that a natural human reaction when we feel criticized or we make a mistake is to blame someone or something else.  Our ego finds it hard to accept that the error is ours. On the other hand, are people who blame themselves for everything that happens, with no evidence that the responsibilityContinue reading “The Blame Game”

Vulnerability

Vulnerability is defined as the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.  Why would any of us choose to be vulnerable?  The truth is, it is by becoming vulnerable that we enter into the most intimate of relationships, the relationship with ourselves.  It isContinue reading “Vulnerability”

Subtracting Leads to Adding

In our consumer-driven world, we are flooded with enticing advertisements that promise us happiness, power, and a better life if we buy these products.  Success in this consumer world means financial wealth rather than good character or playing the hand we are dealt. The phrase quality of life often refers to material wealth, not toContinue reading “Subtracting Leads to Adding”

Detach With Love

Detaching with love is an idea that is introduced in codependency recovery groups.  It means caring enough about others to allow them to learn from their mistakes. It also means being responsible for our own welfare and making decisions without ulterior motives or the desire to control others. During this time of pandemic/quarantine, I haveContinue reading “Detach With Love”

Moving Forward

For many of us, the holidays are synonymous with family, so spending a holiday alone can be a rough experience. This year, with restrictions on travel, social gatherings and other traditional aspects of the holidays, many of us have been on our own throughout the season, maybe for the first time ever. As the newContinue reading “Moving Forward”